-GloriaIsaac: Delayed Gratification
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines gratification as a source of satisfaction or pleasure. That brings us to the question, ‘Is it possible to delay one’s source of satisfaction/pleasure?’ Honestly, it is. I know we live in a world where everyone wants to get things done in the blink of an eye. However, it might interest you to know that delay is a motivational tendency.
So, what is delay of gratification?
Delay of gratification is the ability to resist the urge to take an available reward in hope of getting a reward with greater worth in the future.
Here’s an example:
A businessman tells a person to choose between two large items (a car and laptop), and two small items (a bicycle and an android phone). After showing the person these things, he leaves the room. The rule is this, the person has to wait for the businessman to return if he wants the larger items. Also, if the person calls for the businessman, he gets the smaller items and then, leaves.
So, the smaller items are available (if he calls), but the larger ones aren’t. They require waiting. To get the larger items, the person must resist the urge to call the businessman into the room.
This example has helped in showing us the importance of the ability to delay gratification, and has also revealed to us, ways that can make a person to delay gratification, especially if money is involved. If you can wait a week to get a certain amount of money, you’ll hardly want to engage in social vices like those that choose not to wait.
A person with a good ability to delay gratification might begin to do some exercises or even sing as he waits for the businessman to return; instead of imagining how cool he’ll look driving that car.
Delay is one of the general ways to restrain urges and one thing that destroys the ability to delay gratification is stress. Being under pressure makes it very hard for one to wait for anything, regardless of the reward. Other times, waiting is not rewarded.
However, your ability to delay gratification is only a function of self control and resilience, the ability to be flexible and skillful in making decisions without cracking. The end result will be worth it, trust me.